Publications

Birthlink currently has in stock the following books on adoption.

Birthlink's Adoption Service for Adults Birthlink’s Adoption Services for Adults: What they are and why we provide them.

 

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Gary<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />                     Coles The Invisible Men of Adoption, by Gary ColesA well written, highly readable, thoroughly researched exposition into the troubling nature of men’s roles in the lives of their adopted children … Divided into three sections, each of 5 chapters, this book brings into sharp focus the invisibility of men within the traditional adoption discourse and narrative … The author, Gary Coles brings his own experience as a birth father, to add to the research literature.
Image not available Black by Design: A 2-Tone Memoir [Paperback] by Pauline BlackBorn in 1953 of Anglo/Jewish/Nigerian parents, Pauline was adopted by a white, working class family in Romford in the fifties.
Relatively Clear ‘Relatively Clear – A search guide for adopted people in Scotland’A Birthlink book covering situations which range from how adopted people can find their original birth names to suggestions about making contact with birth mothers and fathers or other members of the family. It aims to make the task of discovering the information as straightforward as possible and it supplements personal advice from experienced adoption workers and counsellors      Cost £8.99
Image not available ‘Relatively Unknown’

A compilation of accounts and experiences that has been produced to tell a wider public about the Adoption Contact Register for Scotland.  Cost £4.99 collect or £5.70 including post and packing in the United Kingdom.
Search<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />                   guide Birthlink’s own ‘Self Search Guide for adopted people in Scotland’If you have been adopted, you may know something about your birth family or nothing at all. This Search Guide has specifically been prepared for adopted people in Scotland.CURRENTLY OUT OF PRINT SO NOT IN STOCK.
Reunions ‘Reunions – true stories of adoptees’ meetings with their natural parents’We have a limited number of free copies of ‘Reunions: true stories of adoptees’ meetings with their natural parents’ for sale. This book consists of fifteen accounts of such meetings and, as can be expected, covers a range of real-life scenarios involving a gamut of emotions from elation to despair. All of the stories are instructive and thus the book is a welcome addition to the number of publications that provide us with insight concerning the growing number of such meetings.Cost – Free (Limited numbers)
Birth Fathers and their adoption experiences
‘Birth Fathers and their adoption experiences’
This study recounts the experiences of 30 birth fathers separated from their children at birth, and suggests ways of applying this knowledge to work with adopted children, their adoptive families and birth parents.Written by Birthlink member of staff, Dr Gary Clapton, this book is the culmination of his Phd.  Cost £16.95 including post and packaging in the United Kingdom
Adoption<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />                   and Loss
‘Adoption & Loss “The Hidden Grief”’
What becomes of women who give up their children for adoption? Why do so many adopted people feel such a strong desire to seek out their families of origin? In what ways are families with adopted children different from other families? This books provides answers to these questions and many others. By Evelyn Burns Robinson
http://www.clovapublications.com£10.00 including post and packaging in the United Kingdom
Adoption<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />                     and recovery ‘Adoption & Recovery “Solving the Mystery of Reunion”’If you are adopted or you have been separated from your child through adoption, there is one thing of which you can be certain: your life will never be commonplace. This original and dynamic book will help many people to understand the challenges you will face.By Evelyn Burns Robinson
http://www.clovapublications.com£10.00 including post and packaging in the United Kingdom
‘Ever After – Fathers and the Impact of Adoption’Whilst much has been written about adoption, the scarcity of literature on the fathers who were separated from their children at birth suggests that these men are immune to the consequences of adoption. Informed by his own involvement, Gary Coles challenges this and other adoption myths.By Gary Coles £10.00 including post and packaging in the United Kingdom
Image not available Lessons LearnedA retrospective look at the Australian Adoption Apologies, state, territory and national, issued over the period 2010-2013, and their fallout.By Gary ColesDownload free here: Lessons Learned

In addition, the following books are available from all good booksellers.

`Adoption Separation Then and Now’ by Evelyn Robinson 2010 – available on Amazon

`A Child’s Journey through Placement’ by Vera Fahlberg BAAF

`A Good Likeness’ Paul Arnott Abacus (2001)

`Adopters on Adption’ David Howe BAAF 1996

‘ Adoption Reunion’ – Ecstasy or Agony? Evelyn Robinson Clova Publications 2009

‘ Adopting the Hurt Child’ by Gregory Keck and Regina Kupencky Pinon Press 1995

`Adoption theory, policy & practice’ John Triseliotis, Joan Shireman, Marion Hundleby, Cassell, London 1997

`Adoption without fear – experiences of `open adoption’ Edited by Gritter Corona 1989

`After Adoption’ Working with Adoptive Families, Rena Phillips and Emma McWilliam BAAF 1996

‘ Charity’ by Lesley Pearse

`Child from the Past’ Information leaflet. Covers some of the concerns women may have about meeting an adult son or daughter. BAAF

`Coming Home to self – The Adopted Child Grows Up`, Nancy Verrier, Gateway press inc, Baltimore (2003)

`Elephants never Forget’ Kay Coleman & Eileen Jenkins Signature Publications

`Explaining Adoption to your Adopted Child’ by Prue Chennels BAAF

`Fallen Women, Problem Girls’ Regina Kurzel. Yale University Press. Unmarried Mothers & the Professionalisation of Social Work 1890/1945

`Family Secrets’. A gripping and insightful story about one man’s search for his origins. Leitch, David, (Penguin 1984)

`Family Wanted’. Adoption Stories Granta Books (2005)

`Half a Million Women: Mothers who lose their children by Adoption’, D Howe, P Sawbridge & D Hinings. (1992) Penguin

`Heart of Reunion – Some Experiences of Reunion in Scotland’ McMillan & Irving Barnardos 1997

`Helping Children cope with Separation and Loss’ Claudia Jewett, Jarrett Batsford & BAAF 1995

`Helping women cope with grief’ by Phyllis R Silverman (Sage Human Service Guide). Useful guide for people involved in bereavement work, with a chapter specifically on birth mothers.

`Holding Time’ Martha G Welch, MD Simon & Schuster New York 1989

`How it Feels to be Adopted’ Jill Kremmentz Camelot Press Ltd Southampton 1982

`Letter to Louise’ Pauline Collins BCA London

`Living Mistakes’ Kate Inglis , Macmillan, Melbourne 1984. A selection of personal accounts of women who have lost a child through adoption.

`Looking for Oliver’ A Mother’s search for the son she gave up for Adoption. Marion Hancock (2003)

`Lost Children’ by Polly Toynbee (Hutchison 1985). A collection of stories based on personal interviews, focusing on some dramatic searches and reunions between adopted people and their original mothers.

`Lost and Found’. The adoption experience by Betty Jean Lifton. The Dial Press, New York 1979. An enquiry into the need for the adoption cycle to come full circle. Based on interviews and personal experience

`Motherhood Silenced’ Ruth Kelly. Liffey Press (2005). Experiences of Natural Mothers on Adoption Reunion

‘Mother Me’, Zara H. Phillips, BAAF Publications 2008. A personal memoir exploring the impact of adoption and reunion

‘Mother Country’ by Jeremy Harding (2006) Faber & Faber Ltd

`Out of the Shadows’ by Mary Martin Mason O J Howard Publishing USA

`Parenting the Child who Hurts – The First Steps’ Caroline Archer PPIAS 1997

`Parenting the Child who Hurts – The Next Steps’ Caroline Archer PPIAS

`Parting with a child for Adoption’ P Bouchier, L Lambert, J Triseliotis. The Mother’s perspective BAAF

`Patterns of Adoption’ David Howe Balckwell Science 1998

`Preparing for Reunion’ Experiences from the Adoption Circle, Julia Feast, M Marwood,S Seabrook, E Webb. The Children’s Society New Edition (1998)

`Real Parents Real Children- Parenting the Adopted Child’ by van Gulden & Bartels-Rabb Crossroad USA 1993

`Relatively Unknown’ A year in the life of the Adoption Contact Register for Scotland. Birthlink (2003)

`Relinquishing mothers in adoption – their long-term adjustment’ by Robin Winkler and Margaret Van Keppel – Institute of Family Studies, Melbourne 1984). An important study with interesting and relevant conclusions.

`Reunions’ by Sarah Tredale The Stationery Office, London. True Stories of adoptees meetings with their natural parents.

`Scottish Ancestors’ Cecil Sinclair, (1990) H.M.S.O

`Searching for Charmian’ Suzanne Chick MacMillan Australia

`Searching for Family Connections’ NORCAP (1988)

`Shadow Baby’ by Margaret Forster, Penguin

`Shared Experience’. NORCAP 1986.
A collection of personal stories representing all three sides of the adoption triangle.

‘Something that Never Went Away’ Edited by Perlita Harris with Chris Waterman, Norcap 2010

`Still Screaming’ Lyn Charlton, Maureen Crank, Kinni Kansara, Carolyn Oliver, After Adoption – Manchester

Stories of Adoption and Loss, Eric Blau. http://adoptionshop.com

`The Adoption Triangle’ J Tugendhat (1992) Bloomsbury

`The Battle for Christabel’ by Margaret Forster. Chatto & Windus

`The Care of a Mother Grieving a Baby relinquished for Adoption’, Rosemary Mander, Avebury

`The Dynamics of Adoption ‘Social & Personal Perspectives’. Treacher & Katz (2000)

`The Easy Way Out’ by Sue Powell, Jacky Warren, Minerva Press. Birth Mothers of Adopted People – The Hidden side of Adoption

‘The English American’, Alison Larkin, Published by Simon & Schuster 2008. Adopted at birth into a loving, tidy family, charming, chronically untidy Pippa Dunn hopes that finding her birth parents will help her understand why she’s so different from everyone she knows – and somehow cure her of her inability to trust even the most devoted of men. She meets her untidy, creative birth mother in Georgia , her charismatic birth father in Washington DC – and moves to New York to be near them, while pursuing an exciting new career. At the same time, she re-connects with a man she hardly knows, who also seems to understand her and sends her seductive emails from around the world. She’s found her ‘self’ and everything she thought she wanted. Or has she?

`The Primal Wound – Understanding the Adopted Child`, Nancy Verrier, Gateway press Inc, Baltimore (1993)

`The Psychology of Adoption’ Brodinsky & Schechter Oxford University Press 1990

`The Search for Anna Fisher’. Florence Fisher. Fawcett Crest 1973. Personal story of a mature women’s search for identity.

‘The Secret Life of the Unborn Child’ Thomas Verny Sphere Books 1982

‘The Stranger who bore me’ Karen March (1995) University of Toronto Press

‘Tracing your Scottish Ancestors’ Scottish Record Office (1990) HMSO

‘Tracing your Scottish Ancestry’ Kathleen B Gory, Polygon

‘Twenty Things Kids Wish their Adoptive Parents Knew’ by Sherrie Eldridge (Dell 2004)

‘Where are the Snows’ by Maggie Gee. Heinemann

‘Wise Children’ by Angela Carter. Chatto & Windus

‘Within me, Without me’ S Wells (1994) Scarlet Press

Videos

The following 4 videos are available from the Adoption Shop.

Oranges and Sunshine (2010) –  Oranges and Sunshine tells the story of Margaret Humphreys, a social worker from Nottingham, who uncovered one of the most significant social scandals in recent times: the forced migration of children from the United Kingdom. Almost singlehandedly, against overwhelming odds and with little regard for her own well-being, Margaret reunited thousands of families, brought authorities to account and worldwide attention to an extraordinary miscarriage of justice. She discovered a secret that the British government had kept hidden for years: one hundred and thirty thousand children in care had been sent abroad to commonwealth countries, mainly Australia. Children as young as four had been told that their parents were dead, and been sent to children’s homes on the other side of the world. Many were subjected to appalling abuse. They were promised oranges and sunshine, they got hard labour and life in institutions.

Catfish in Black Bean Sauce – DVD – Orphans in a refugee camp adopted by an African-American couple. Touching and funny look at what it means to be family. Crossing Chasms – Video documentary about Jennifer Arndt, a Korean adoptee who returns to her country of birth seeking answers to the complex questions surrounding her adoption.

Evelyn – Video & DVD – Struggle of a father to keep his family intact and challenge a law before the Irish Supreme Court when his children are taken from him and put into orphanages.

Secrets & Lies – DVD – Adopted person finds Birth mother.

The Lost Child – Video of an adoptee raised by a Jewish Family. Based on a true story.

See also:

Flirting with Disaster – Comedy about search and reunion with Ben Stiller & Patricia Arquette

The Other Mother – Film – The story of birthmother Carol Schaefer tracing and contacting her son as an adopted adult.

Breakfast on Pluto – A Neil Jordan film set in the 1970’s – the story of a young man born and adopted in Ireland and his journey to look for his birth parents.